.someone addressed this very same thing a long time ago.

I felt more loved when you said something hard, when you addressed some of the ugly complexities and dark realities that I've been choosing not to see. You are dear and safe. Thank you.

Don't be afraid to speak truth in love....it's more lovely than empty embraces and false praise. (i'm pretty sure there is something like this in the Bible...i just discovered it to be true...funny how it works like that...)